I was nominated to contribute to the #RockingMotherhood series by Stephenie – the blogger behind Blended Life Happy Wife! I love interacting with that mama! You guys should seriously check out her Instagram – I love all the quotes she’s got going on!
I have to admit, I was happy to be nominated but after about 4 minutes, that feeling sunk and what I started to feel was dread. All I could think of was “Oh my god, how DO I rock motherhood? Do I rock motherhood? What do I do that makes me rock motherhood?” The questions went on and on.
All those questions made me LOVE this hashtag – it makes you think! A lot of us wonder if we’re doing the right thing…. wondering if we’re doing right by our babies. Started by Patricia at White Camellias.
So, here I list all the ways that I think make me rock motherhood.
I let him have his own style. He wants to go out wearing samurai pants? Sure! He wants to grow his hair out? Why not! I want him to learn and to grow to love himself.
I allow him to travel. I want him to experience other places. I used to go to the Philippines every year for my grandpa’s birthday but since I started school and with all of my diagnoses, I haven’t been able to go. I still let him go with my mom, though. Majority of my family is in the Philippines so I want Riley to grow up knowing my side of the family. I want him to experience the different lifestyle there and hopefully he won’t take life here in Canada for granted.
I also let him travel with his dad’s side. They take him for road trips to Calgary and Idaho.
I still play games with him. I may not play sports with him, but we have the odd boardgame night. We even played hide-and-seek Nerf where we turned off all the lights in the house, two of us would hide and the other is the seeker. Each of us would have a Nerf gun and shoot each other when found.
I don’t rely entirely on the school system. I’m not saying anything bad about the school system but teachers can only do so much in the time they have with the kids. I want Riley to excel so ever since he was in preschool I would set aside time to go over math, reading and art. Now that he’s older, I still help him with his homework when he doesn’t understand.
I encourage his love for reading and art. I absolutely love reading. It’s so great to be able to just snuggle in bed, reading a book. So when I worked at Chapters I bought him books galore! Story books and books on dinosaurs, trucks, animals and we would read them together. Now his reading level is two grades up! I’m so proud!
When he started showing interest in art (drawing in particular), I bought him an entire drawing set for Christmas! Sketchbooks, a variety of how-to books, sketch pencils! He’s gotten so good at drawing!
I try my hardest to get up. That may not seem like it should be on the list but when you’re battling multiple chronic illnesses, and side effects of all the medications you’re taking… it’s got to be on the list. Some days it is very hard to get up. Some days I just want to lay in bed. But I get up to spend time with Riley – even if it is only to watch shows in the living room.
I believe in discipline. I’m not afraid to put my foot down. I want Riley to be respectful and respectable. To know right from wrong. To make smart decisions. I want him to realize that there are consequences. Good or bad – there are consequences. If ever I see or hear him disbehave or being disrespectful, he gets reprimanded. Technology and trips are taken away, not being able to see or play with his friends.
Teaching him the value of money. Maybe it’s just me, but since he is my only baby, I can’t help but want to spoil him. But of course that can’t happen. I’m not made out of money. So when he was young, I taught him the words sale and clearance. Funny now, but that’s all I can afford. I used to take Riley out on “shopping sprees” at the dollarstore and he loved it! Just gave him $5 or $10 and let him have a blast! I want him to realize at a young age that you need to work to earn money and that money can be spent much faster than you can earn it.
I am always available for a hug!
But no matter what happens, I am always there for Riley. He can come to me for anything. I am teaching him that no matter what, he can talk to me about anything. I want to have a great relationship with him where he doesn’t feel the need to hide anything from me. Where he knows that he can come to me for anything, about anything, and that I will always love him no matter what!
See the Guidelines below.
- Thank the blogger that tagged you and link to their blog
- List at least 10 Things you believe make you a good mother
- Tag some bloggers to join in the #Rockingmotherhood tag